Love Languages

Posted by Peach

The other day when I had lunch with Rine, she told me how much she benefited from a book about the five love languages.  The concept about the love languages is not new to me as I had learnt it during one of the church sermon I attended many years back.

I knew what is my love language all this while but I was curious on whether my love language has changed after all these years.  Maybe what I want changes when maturity sets in?

I googled the web and found many sites which allow people to do a simple test to find out their love language. Try this if you are interested : Test.  Go on! [They will let you print a copy of the result, so get your printer or pdf writer ready if you want to keep a copy]

Anyway, my primary love language is still the same, so I came to a conclusion that my idea of love stays the same despite all those past hurts.

Rine went on to ask me whether I think that my marriage will still fail if I had applied this concept to save the marriage.  I didn’t want to engage into a debate about this topic and I gave a smile.  But deep down in my heart, I think its not possible.  Love is a 2-way motion. It’s filling each other love tank.  What’s the point of filling up another’s love tank and depleting your own?  I know Gary Chapman has his own theory, and he has many success stories on saving marriages by applying the concept.  But I totally beg to differ.  It could help some, but if one had already a heart of stone, no matter what the other party do, the result is zero, or superficial.

So what’s your love language? Wanna share your results with me?