Sights

On my way home from work today, in that span of 1 hour, I saw :

In a crowded train, a father carrying a pink barbie doll bag on his back, with his girl sitting somewhere in the cabin.

At the traffic junction, a father on a bicycle, with his son at the back in the child seat.  It was raining heavily, and the son was sitting quietly in his seat, and seemed not bothered by the rain drops hitting on his face.

On the pavement, a father carrying his girl in his arms with 1 hand and the other hand holding an umbrella over their heads.

Very common sights, issn’t? But it meant alot to me.

To the father who carried that pink bag, you are awesome.  You carried that pinky stuff on your back boldly because it looks heavy on your daughter’s shoulder.

To the father on the bicycle, you are the man.  You taught your son how to be a man and is a total opposite from worrying mothers who over-protect the kids and deprive them from the simple joy of playing in the rain.

To the father with the umbrella, you are wonderful. Balancing an active child, a small schoolbag and an umbrella sounds like the job of a clown but you did it pretty well, and you didn’t look like a clown at all. 

Apart from these, I saw another sight.  A woman, whom could be the mother or the grandmother (or nanny?!!), exclaimed this to her son / grandson :

“每次带你出来吃饭都下大雨！很麻烦！你不要吃啦!”

[it means : It always rain when I bring you out for dinner. It's so troublesome! You don't eat dinner (next time it rains)!] 

I was in shock. Rain also the poor kid’s fault meh?!!

Love Languages

The other day when I had lunch with Rine, she told me how much she benefited from a book about the five love languages.  The concept about the love languages is not new to me as I had learnt it during one of the church sermon I attended many years back.

I knew what is my love language all this while but I was curious on whether my love language has changed after all these years.  Maybe what I want changes when maturity sets in?

I googled the web and found many sites which allow people to do a simple test to find out their love language. Try this if you are interested : Test.  Go on! [They will let you print a copy of the result, so get your printer or pdf writer ready if you want to keep a copy]

Anyway, my primary love language is still the same, so I came to a conclusion that my idea of love stays the same despite all those past hurts.

Rine went on to ask me whether I think that my marriage will still fail if I had applied this concept to save the marriage.  I didn’t want to engage into a debate about this topic and I gave a smile.  But deep down in my heart, I think its not possible.  Love is a 2-way motion. It’s filling each other love tank.  What’s the point of filling up another’s love tank and depleting your own?  I know Gary Chapman has his own theory, and he has many success stories on saving marriages by applying the concept.  But I totally beg to differ.  It could help some, but if one had already a heart of stone, no matter what the other party do, the result is zero, or superficial.

So what’s your love language? Wanna share your results with me?

It’s a bug’s life

人物与情节虚构，如有雷同纯粹巧合！

There are 3 person in a department. 

Donald makes sure that the logistic needs of the department is met.  His job includes making sure that his colleagues’ desks are cleaned before they reach, he clears the rubbish when the bin is overloaded and whenever his colleagues need some Photostatting to be done, he is there to do it.

Minnie serves the clients, both the internal and external ones.  She will ensure that her clients needs are met.  Due to the nature of the work which deals with alot of logistics, she will usually has to work with Donald on the logistics aspect. She will also need to seek advices and directions from Tom.

Tom is the head of the department.  He ensures that the department work efficiently and plans the operations of the department.  He has to resolve the things which his subordinates are unable to solve. Donald and Minnie report to him.Everyone has their role right? Specific hor? Well, not quite.What happens when one of them is not around or not doing their job?

If Donald is on leave, Minnie has to do his job.  Because the bins can only contain so much and it can’t be left overloaded, she has to clear it. Because the Photostatting has to be given out and can’t wait for Donald to come back, Minnie has to do it. So who is doing Minnie’s job when she is doing Donald’s job? No one.

If Tom is on leave, who has to ensure that the department still function? Minnie.  Because she is the next senior in line.  Department efficiency is everyday affair, so Minnie has to jump in to help if need be. So who is doing Minnie’s job when she is helping out Tom’s work? No one.

If Minnie is on leave, what will happen?

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Nothing will happen.  Her work will only just stack up..because Donald is too junior to understand Minnie’s work, and Tom is too busy with the daily efficiency.

Hmm..what if both Donald and Minnie is not around?  Do you think Tom will help to cover both their job?

>:[

报应

你信不信人间有报应这回事？

我相信。

谁欠你，谁负了你，上天各自有安排。

他伤了你，有一天他也会被他深爱的人所伤。那种疼痛，他会感觉比你的多出一倍。 毕竟地球是圆的。

失去过才懂得珍惜。我同意这句话。

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我非常珍惜现在，非常。

P/S : words between the lines, meaning between the words.  A post which only I will understand the full meaning of it.  {Evil smile}

Sweet Tooth

I am talking about myself, not Dawn.

Love those pretty cakes, delicious desserts and tasty sweets…I just can’t resist them. No wonder the weighing machine had been protesting at me..

The tiramisu from Spizza, very delicious, exceeded my expectation as I didn’t expect a pizza place to have such nice tiramisu.

Tiramisu from Nectarie.  This is what I call a true tiramisu..the alcohol taste ran down my throat..shiok! 

Parfait of dark & white….Wonderful! Slurp!

人不为己，天殊地灭

This is what I felt so strongly. 

Foolish, stupid, silly goose, dumb are what I can only describe myself as.

Work is NOT about being efficiently and knowing your things well. It’s about acting you are busy, care for your own survival and act as if you still have teamwork.

I’m disgusted.  Very. Period.

怕怕

当 Dawn 听到雷声时，她就会用她的小手拍拍自己的胸膛，告诉我们她怕怕。看着她那美丽的小脸蛋，令我不知不觉的抱着她，口中重复着“不怕不怕”。

其实妈妈也一样在怕，只不过不是怕雷声。。。

妈妈怕您的安危，现在和以后。看着你乱跑乱撞， 看着你身上的撞伤，你真的让妈妈好怕哦！

妈妈怕将来。怕你的，也怕自己的。也许是看不到的未来，那种未知数已经变成一种不安。。。

妈妈怕没钱的日子。虽然有未雨绸缪，但是还是有那种莫名其妙的不安， 也许因为你是妈妈的宝贝吧。要给你吃的饱，穿得暖。一个人养你真的有点辛苦。但妈妈不后悔。。。现在不会，以后也不会。

妈妈怕黑暗的日子。 经过了那种黑暗，希望剩下的日子都是在阳光中度过。。。阳光带着彩虹，妈妈可以这样过下半身吗？不求过分的财富，只求快乐，健康。。不需要刺激， 平淡就好了。。与家人，与朋友，与你 和与他，妈妈就满足了。。

Silence is broken

For years, we have tolerated with an “unfinished” pavement. For months, I had walked this pavement and pondered on why there are landscapers who planned in such a way which I couldn’t agree on. For days, I struggled when pushing Dawn’s pram over the uneven patch and simply dread raining days (where it became MUDDY and ruined my shoes).

I can’t tolerate anymore!

I don’t know who to contact, is it the town council? Or is it some government agencies?

Why Why Why? Why one side there’s a proper pavement, the other is …erm…Empty?  It used to be that empty patch there, and just days before I took these photos, there were these bricks there. With or without the bricks, it just does not make any sense to me.

Stomp-ed it!

Father Instinct

The other day while flipping through Simply Her, I saw a letter submitted by a father.  His words are so heartfelt, especially the part about staying up whole night when the child was having fever. Bravo to this father!

What will we do?

I was very disturbed with the recent news about the China Earthquake.  So much so that my eyes will be filled with tears whenever I read news about the dead and the survivors’ stories.

Many of the reports covered about the huge numbers of schools being destroyed during the quake.  And it really hurts me when I looked at the number of children being killed because of the collapsed schools. I mean, can you imagine the hurt that was brought to their living parents? Even if the parents were killed during the quake, will their souls rest peacefully? Were their last thoughts wondered around the fate of their own children?

As I felt the tremors last night at around 10-ish p.m., I started to wonder, what will we, Singaporeans, do if a earthquake strikes us? What will I do? What if the tremors last night was indeed a earthquake that had hit Singapore? And that the buildings start collapsing on me?

As I was lying on my bed, I thought of my immediate actions if there’s ever a quake happening.  Which table am I going to run to?  Will I be quick enough to carry Dawn in my arms and run to the nearest sturdy table to take cover? And what if we managed to survive the quake but was buried under the debris? Will Dawn have enough will to survive? What will I do for our survival? Will I drink my own urine?

Look, I am not being paranoid.  But have you not thought that we Singaporeans are living in too much a protected area? So much so that we are taking granted of our own bliss? Of course I am not wishing or hoping that Singapore will get a earthquake or some very bad natural disaster! But do Singaporeans know that we are indeed fortunate? I too sometimes am guilty of that with all the complaining (”how damn hot is the weather!”)

It must have been a frightening experience for the children and adults in China.  The battle to try and outrun the falling bricks, enduring the sight of nearby friends falling one by one, and own ears are filled with the sound of cries. I really cannot imagine any further.  And I really hope the survivors will be stong to build their lives again. Gambatte people!