Love Languages

The other day when I had lunch with Rine, she told me how much she benefited from a book about the five love languages.  The concept about the love languages is not new to me as I had learnt it during one of the church sermon I attended many years back.

I knew what is my love language all this while but I was curious on whether my love language has changed after all these years.  Maybe what I want changes when maturity sets in?

I googled the web and found many sites which allow people to do a simple test to find out their love language. Try this if you are interested : Test.  Go on! [They will let you print a copy of the result, so get your printer or pdf writer ready if you want to keep a copy]

Anyway, my primary love language is still the same, so I came to a conclusion that my idea of love stays the same despite all those past hurts.

Rine went on to ask me whether I think that my marriage will still fail if I had applied this concept to save the marriage.  I didn’t want to engage into a debate about this topic and I gave a smile.  But deep down in my heart, I think its not possible.  Love is a 2-way motion. It’s filling each other love tank.  What’s the point of filling up another’s love tank and depleting your own?  I know Gary Chapman has his own theory, and he has many success stories on saving marriages by applying the concept.  But I totally beg to differ.  It could help some, but if one had already a heart of stone, no matter what the other party do, the result is zero, or superficial.

So what’s your love language? Wanna share your results with me?

It’s a bug’s life

人物与情节虚构，如有雷同纯粹巧合！

There are 3 person in a department. 

Donald makes sure that the logistic needs of the department is met.  His job includes making sure that his colleagues’ desks are cleaned before they reach, he clears the rubbish when the bin is overloaded and whenever his colleagues need some Photostatting to be done, he is there to do it.

Minnie serves the clients, both the internal and external ones.  She will ensure that her clients needs are met.  Due to the nature of the work which deals with alot of logistics, she will usually has to work with Donald on the logistics aspect. She will also need to seek advices and directions from Tom.

Tom is the head of the department.  He ensures that the department work efficiently and plans the operations of the department.  He has to resolve the things which his subordinates are unable to solve. Donald and Minnie report to him.Everyone has their role right? Specific hor? Well, not quite.What happens when one of them is not around or not doing their job?

If Donald is on leave, Minnie has to do his job.  Because the bins can only contain so much and it can’t be left overloaded, she has to clear it. Because the Photostatting has to be given out and can’t wait for Donald to come back, Minnie has to do it. So who is doing Minnie’s job when she is doing Donald’s job? No one.

If Tom is on leave, who has to ensure that the department still function? Minnie.  Because she is the next senior in line.  Department efficiency is everyday affair, so Minnie has to jump in to help if need be. So who is doing Minnie’s job when she is helping out Tom’s work? No one.

If Minnie is on leave, what will happen?

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Nothing will happen.  Her work will only just stack up..because Donald is too junior to understand Minnie’s work, and Tom is too busy with the daily efficiency.

Hmm..what if both Donald and Minnie is not around?  Do you think Tom will help to cover both their job?

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报应

你信不信人间有报应这回事？

我相信。

谁欠你，谁负了你，上天各自有安排。

他伤了你，有一天他也会被他深爱的人所伤。那种疼痛，他会感觉比你的多出一倍。 毕竟地球是圆的。

失去过才懂得珍惜。我同意这句话。

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我非常珍惜现在，非常。

P/S : words between the lines, meaning between the words.  A post which only I will understand the full meaning of it.  {Evil smile}

Cute Animation

Cindy sent me this link..very cute leh!

Animation vs Animation

It’s not easy to create a nice flash…I learnt the basic and had done some simple animation before.  Can make me become crossed-eyed de! Have to count the bars (aka the timeline), have to create the symbols, make them move…aiyo! But it’s quite fun actually.

Kudos to those who can do such beautiful and cute animation!

怕怕

当 Dawn 听到雷声时，她就会用她的小手拍拍自己的胸膛，告诉我们她怕怕。看着她那美丽的小脸蛋，令我不知不觉的抱着她，口中重复着“不怕不怕”。

其实妈妈也一样在怕，只不过不是怕雷声。。。

妈妈怕您的安危，现在和以后。看着你乱跑乱撞， 看着你身上的撞伤，你真的让妈妈好怕哦！

妈妈怕将来。怕你的，也怕自己的。也许是看不到的未来，那种未知数已经变成一种不安。。。

妈妈怕没钱的日子。虽然有未雨绸缪，但是还是有那种莫名其妙的不安， 也许因为你是妈妈的宝贝吧。要给你吃的饱，穿得暖。一个人养你真的有点辛苦。但妈妈不后悔。。。现在不会，以后也不会。

妈妈怕黑暗的日子。 经过了那种黑暗，希望剩下的日子都是在阳光中度过。。。阳光带着彩虹，妈妈可以这样过下半身吗？不求过分的财富，只求快乐，健康。。不需要刺激， 平淡就好了。。与家人，与朋友，与你 和与他，妈妈就满足了。。

Silence is broken

For years, we have tolerated with an “unfinished” pavement. For months, I had walked this pavement and pondered on why there are landscapers who planned in such a way which I couldn’t agree on. For days, I struggled when pushing Dawn’s pram over the uneven patch and simply dread raining days (where it became MUDDY and ruined my shoes).

I can’t tolerate anymore!

I don’t know who to contact, is it the town council? Or is it some government agencies?

Why Why Why? Why one side there’s a proper pavement, the other is …erm…Empty?  It used to be that empty patch there, and just days before I took these photos, there were these bricks there. With or without the bricks, it just does not make any sense to me.

Stomp-ed it!

What will we do?

I was very disturbed with the recent news about the China Earthquake.  So much so that my eyes will be filled with tears whenever I read news about the dead and the survivors’ stories.

Many of the reports covered about the huge numbers of schools being destroyed during the quake.  And it really hurts me when I looked at the number of children being killed because of the collapsed schools. I mean, can you imagine the hurt that was brought to their living parents? Even if the parents were killed during the quake, will their souls rest peacefully? Were their last thoughts wondered around the fate of their own children?

As I felt the tremors last night at around 10-ish p.m., I started to wonder, what will we, Singaporeans, do if a earthquake strikes us? What will I do? What if the tremors last night was indeed a earthquake that had hit Singapore? And that the buildings start collapsing on me?

As I was lying on my bed, I thought of my immediate actions if there’s ever a quake happening.  Which table am I going to run to?  Will I be quick enough to carry Dawn in my arms and run to the nearest sturdy table to take cover? And what if we managed to survive the quake but was buried under the debris? Will Dawn have enough will to survive? What will I do for our survival? Will I drink my own urine?

Look, I am not being paranoid.  But have you not thought that we Singaporeans are living in too much a protected area? So much so that we are taking granted of our own bliss? Of course I am not wishing or hoping that Singapore will get a earthquake or some very bad natural disaster! But do Singaporeans know that we are indeed fortunate? I too sometimes am guilty of that with all the complaining (”how damn hot is the weather!”)

It must have been a frightening experience for the children and adults in China.  The battle to try and outrun the falling bricks, enduring the sight of nearby friends falling one by one, and own ears are filled with the sound of cries. I really cannot imagine any further.  And I really hope the survivors will be stong to build their lives again. Gambatte people!

Quad processor 2.0 Ghz

I don’t know what gets into me.

My mind is so filled with many things.

Every minute, every second.

One moment I am thinking of my work, the next I am thinking of how to build my potential business. And then my mind start wandering to both my dear and little Dawn. There seeems like million of things to do, and my mind is processing at the speed of probably 2.0 Ghz with a quad processor. Heh.

I had many things to blog about, but when it comes to the actual writing, I seem to experience a sudden drought of words. Porbably the quad processor could not function after too much processing throughout the day.

Alright, let’s see when I can end the drought. I try my best to put my thoughts in one by one after this.

爱的感觉

曾经读过一篇文章，让我感触极深。文章的主题是“爱的感觉”。不知你读过没？

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爱一个人！要了解，也要开解；要道歉， 也要道谢；要认错，也要改错； 要体贴；也要体谅。
是接受， 而不是忍受； 是宽容， 而不是纵容； 是支持，而不是支配；是慰问， 而不是质问。
是倾诉，而不是控诉； 是难忘，而不是遗忘；是彼此交流， 而不是凡事交代。

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不知谁是作者。。但很感谢他的笔录，因为它提醒了我，无时无刻地记得那爱的感觉。P/S : 如果你没看过看那篇文章，想看就然我知道，EMAIL 你咯！

Because

I love you,
Because you make me happy in many ways.

I love you,
Because you laugh with me.

I love you,
Because you let me be me, and you are you.

I love you,
Because you know when to talk and when to stop.

I love you,
Because you showered me with concerns when I was sick.

I love you,
Because you read my expression, my mood and my thoughts.

I love you,
And I appreciate you in my life,
for the little and big things you done,
for that little and big thoughts you thought,
and for that warmth you always bring me.
Thanks baby!

P/S : It’s Valentine’s day afterall..so it’s ok to be mushy right? heh